There was a time when I was scared.
You see, there have been many times over the years when I had no idea what I was going to do:
I dropped out of college because I just wasn’t sure what I wanted to be
I moved 1000 miles away from my family because I was trying to “find myself”
I changed from job to job to job before I got into mortgages
AND when I first got into the mortgage business I had no idea what I was doing…
These are just some of the things I never wanted anyone to know. I felt like if I told people I had no idea what I was doing, they might take advantage of me. Just the thought of people knowing I was scared made me scared.
But I was wrong.
Everyone gets scared. Everyone has flaws. Actually, I have learned that there is always someone doing better than me that was even more scared than I was. I don’t care if you are an entry-level person or the president of the world…you will have times when you are unsure and downright scared!
It is not a fun thought.
Over time though I have learned that standing up and doing “something” is a whole lot easier than doing nothing because of fear. I have also learned that people are not standing around waiting for you to fail, they want you to succeed.
I used to keep things to myself and pretend that nothing bothered me or that I was never afraid of anything. If I had an important decision to make, I did it alone and it sometimes made me sad. If I was scared, I would never tell anyone and then I would lose sleep because I had no one to help me through it.
But now, if I am scared, I tell my problem to another person. I only talk to people who I know, 1-will not be judgmental and 2- will help me resolve my problem (not compound it).
Here is the weird part, now that I know how to handle being afraid, I’m rarely ever afraid. I do things and most times I am successful because I am not afraid of failing. By getting rid of fear, I have become almost fearless.
Do you let fear hold you back? If so, now is the time to let it go. You can start small until you build your confidence up. The important thing is that you try new things and do things that you want to do and let others know what you are doing. Don’t be afraid of their reaction.
If you have worked through a similar problem by letting go of fear, tell me about it here. Leave a comment.